I was born and raised in Soweto Johannesburg to a very strict Zulu household where tradition demands to be followed. My father was born and raised in eMadadeni KZN where he gained and learnt knowledge about everything, he taught us. It all started from my great-grandfather passed to my grandfather to my father to normalize polygamy. My great-grandfather had 5 wives, my grandfather has 2 and my father has 3. The belief that came out of all this was that it is okay to have polygamy in the family because it is our ethnicity, and it is indigenous to our Zulu people it was practiced a thousand of years back even in the era of Shaka Zulu. I know in society today polygamy is considered not far but to me it changed my entire view of life and the world. As a child born and raised in polygamy marriage it is easy to go out to the world and face it on my own. I have had conflicts with my siblings from the other wife, I have seen different personalities on my siblings and most importantly I have gained social skills at home. You learn how to share even though you do not want to you have too. I realized I would not mind getting married into polygamy as well because of the benefits and the long history behind my family tradition. One could ask about the benefits of it is that you get to share responsibilities and chores. We live in a modern world yes and I would also want to work for myself, and polygamy marriages give you a bit of flexibility of freedom to do what makes you happy because you have a helper. It is a norm to use African people and it has been carried for years and years.

Another teaching I got from my Zulu household is that it is a must to recognize ancestors and give thanks to them. We do highly believe in good but also, we believe some of our reality and blessings we hold are from our forefathers. If I have just received something for example a car it is important to burn Incense and slaughter a goat or a cow. That is how my father was raised, and he passed the tradition to us to do. We know that it works in a form of data connection between you and the ancestors. It is also believed that if you do not show appreciation a lot of bad things will happen to you, from getting sick to lose of life and others even lose jobs and financial stability. 

All of this comes from our great fathers and the teachings are still being passed down to us. To us who travel the country for example my latest relocation was to Potchefstroom we see those things are different from how everyone else does or view them. How things are done KwaZulu is so foreign and strange to other tribes you meet but that is us.