Each and every individual has something that they have been taught from a very young age , but mine will be from my old age and from the experience i had from my journey of manhood and how the Xhosa culture taught me about being a man 

I firstly learnt that in this life each and every person will someday have responsibilities as an individual and in my case i would have to build a family and create an environment for my family because a man is not a real man without a wife and a family . How you represent yourself is also a huge factor in our lives which basically means that how you treat yourself and the people around you determines what type of person you are and i was taught that i could never call myself a man to my elders or the people that raised because i will always remain a child to them .

We were also encouraged to try to fix the mistakes that were done or are still being done by other man and give women the respect they deserve in order to bring back our dignity . I was also taught the different ways and methods that a person my age should do when amongst elders and as i grow these very elders are still teaching me rituals and how ceremonies should be handled but according to my age .

Therefore i was taught everything that the elders felt that i should know and they specified that i should be willing to learn things from other people because what i know will never be enough for other people and myself .