AD VAN DER MERWE
My network reflect on the people around me they shape me as a person.
my family provide me with economic capital they give me food and a roof over my head. My sister support me in life by catching my tears before they land on my check. My brother gives me grey hare and makes me laugh until my stomach hurts .My brother and sister loves so brag about me by their friends that also gives me social capital because their friends then also wants to be my friends. We also share material exchanges I buy things for them like cream ,perfume and facial wash but I do not expect anything back from them. Me and my sister share the same beliefs but not the same thoughts. Because we have different meanings about different things. What do I give to my family well I help my mother around the house after nagging bout that I help my sister with school work and I help my brother with his homework and then I help my father to fix things around the house I am basically his handy women.
My friends provides social capital and economic capital to me. My friends provides social capital to me when they gives me emotional support and provide with a listing ear and a healing medicine to my sorrows. They gives me advice on things I need advice like for instance n how to make food on a better way and faster way. They shape my believes by teaching me more about their believes and why they believe what they believe. And that's how they shape my experience. They provide me also with economic support by buying me things and then they expect the same amount things back from me. For instance if they brought me cooldrink ,hamburger and something sweet. Then the next time I must brought them cooldrink and a sandwich.
My lectures teach me and challenge me to grow in the experience they teach me. They also push me do better in my school work they encourage by given me good marks to my essay that encourage me to do better and teach me if I failed one time I must stand up and not stay there I must grow also in this process.
My boyfriend provides me with economic capital and social capital. My boyfriend gives me emotional support and joy and is the doctor to my sorrows. He offers encourage to me by believing in me if do not believe in myself. He lend me a listing ear if something brother me I can speak to him he won`t share my problems to anybody else. He gives me advice on how to be a better person and how to love and take care of myself. He provide me with economical capital by buying me things every month and expert nothing in turns he also intrude me to his friends and family that's the social capital he gives to me.
Othering and belonging by AD Van der merwe 52603318
9 Mar 2024, 14:25
Fabian define othering as a process by which the colonizing other (the West) establishes it identify by defining and producing the colonized others (the East) as subjects. I define othering as a thief of your identity and a reason for unhappiness
THE PROBLEM ABOUT OTHERING
The problem of the twenty first sentry is the problem of othering
You have to be skinny but not too skinny and you can never say you want to be thin you have to say you want to be healthy but also you have to be skinny
You have to have money but you can never ask for money because that is rode..
You have too be a boss lady but you can not be mean.
You have to lead but you can not steal others ideas.
You have to be a career women but always be looking out for other people.
You suppose to stay beautiful for men but not so beautiful that you tempt them too must or that you threaten other women because you are suppose to be part of a sisterhood but always stand out and always be grateful .
You have to never get old.
Never show off.
Never be selfish.
Never fall down.
Never show fear.
Never get out of line.
My point is that nobody gives you a medal or even say thank you. And it turns out in fact that not only are you doing everything wrong but also everything is your fault.
IS THAT THE WORLD WE WANT TO LEAVE FOR THE NEXT GENERATION?