I was raised in Setswana traditional home with Christianity as the standard religion, there a numerous teachings that I had gained from both a religious and a cultural perspective. 

In my culture adults are adults and children are children. I have been taught from a very young age to respect each elder like they are my parents or grandparents, depending on their age. In my culture age and life experience is ranked higher than DNA. There is a common phrase that expresses that it take a village to raise a child. These teachings are extended to the community and even strangers. If for example you see your mother's peer, you would immediately attach her to your mother and therefore the way you treat her should resemble the way in which you would treat your mother. Being scolded by a neighbour is not taboo because you subconsciously categorise them as a parent. The teaching runs deep and far back into the culture and it is seen through the words we have in the language. In Setswana there are no translations for terms such as, great-aunt or great-uncle, which means that you would refer to your great aunts and uncles as "Koko" or "Ntatemogolo", which mean grandma and grandpa respectively. This means that your grandparents' siblings, cousins or even siblings in law are your grandparents too, there is no exclusivity. This forces one to treat them and award them the same respect as they would their immediate grandparents. This shaped my worldview and overall behaviour by making me respect adults. When I see black older women, I see my mom and behave accordingly. My relationships older black people, whether I know them or not, adopt the relationship dynamics that I have with my parents or grandparents. Even if a stranger is disrespectful, the mere fact that they are older hinders me from having a 'respect works both ways' attitude because that is not how it was in my household. Adults deserved respect just for being adults and I carry that mentality  with me everyday. Christianity further enforces this mentality because it teaches respect, and humility at all costs.

In Setswana culture it is also important that you get married before you procreate. If ever it happens that you have a child out of wedlock, that child is her or his mother's child. They will be named by the mother and take her surname. You as an unmarried man have no rights to the child. Getting married to the mother allows for both her and your child to use your surname. If you don't wish to pursue the mother any longer, but desire for your offspring to carry your surname you have to marry your child, in the sense that you pay dowry for your child. I have seen people go against this teaching and simply allow their boyfriends or "baby daddies' to name their children and it came to their own detriment because it enraged the child's maternal ancestors and resulted in problems that can only be solved by appeasing them with livestock and changing the child's name. Sex before a marriage being a sin according to Christianity further enforced this teaching. My worldview and behaviour were altered by this belief in the sense that I would not have a child out of wedlock, because it does not seem worth it to me. On top of wanting my children to have a stable home, wanting to have the same surname as my husband and children I want to please God as best as I can. I would never intentionally put myself in a situation where I have children without getting married first.