my social networks and reciprocation

through millions of years of evolution ,humans have developed unto the ultimate herd animals ,although we may try and convince ourselves as if we are unique an can survive as lone wolves per say ,nature ultimately proves us wrong as your brain is hotwired to seek companionship and to be a part of a tribe of people who understand you ,we also crave to make said tribe happy this can be through various actions like completing tasks or reciprocating their actions through positive reinforcements or actions that the tribesmen would be pleased with like gift giving

my strongest social network would be that of my friends ,we are all brought together through common interests like rugby,football,fifa and anime amongst other things ,i strongly believe that this social network of friends is the strongest and shapes you into being ,growing in a predominantly Zulu speaking area as a Tsonga speaker was tough but ultimately through my friend group i managed to learn and speak Zulu properly so much so that I'm more proficient in Zulu than i am in Tsonga currently, this social network is strong because we provide each other with support in different avenues for example I'm able to 8 languages so if my friends ever need help with a certain tongue they'd call me ,this group provides us with the strongest social capital because we are usually judged by the group of friends we keep around instead of who  our parents are and thus this social network i believe is the strongest

the social network of family is strong but ultimately it'll depend on the pockets of your family to determine how strong it is ,family provides you with social capital given who your parents are in the community if your parents are well respect in the community that respect will ultimately fall to you as you are seen as an extension of your parents and that makes it super hard to be a rebellious youth because people wouldn't judge your actions alone but rather your actions would be pinned to your family name ,this social network is also strong because given your parents financial standing they can afford to send you to the best schools in the country thus giving your family more respect in the community and if your work at those schools speak for itself then this shines a positive light on your ,this is true for me ,as much as my family didn't send me to the best schools in the country ,i was heralded as one of the smartest kids in school during my younger years and that increased our social capital in the community as people even refused to let me do any sort of manual work as they thought it was beneath me because i was so smart ,all that pressure in my younger years came to bite me in the ass when i became a teen

my outer layer of friends is pretty interesting as it has given me social capital in spaces i wouldn't typically enter, as someone who grew up pretty introverted i have a knack for getting people to like me ,using vague knowledge on stuff that interests them i get people to lower their guard and open up for me and this has led to me being spaces i wouldn't have discovered on my own, like for example i have a lot of musician friends and this has led to me attending thee most niche parties ,as much as i don't speak frequently with my musician friends every time i meet with them i always end up in some crazy party

through my social networks i have became more than what i present ,looking at me you'd see a nerd who's into anime but peer deeper you get to unfold a Russian doll  ,its through my social networks that i am ,a few years ago i was isolated and suicidal ,if it wasn't for a friend i wouldn't be writing this right now ,this goes to show that our social networks can literally save our lives sometimes