To understand the concept of "From" one needs to know ways of how they grew up and how culture had an impact on their growth. I grew up with both parents being religious. My father grew up in a household where the man of the house is the breadwinner and the wife just knows and does her duties not working. My mother, on the other hand, grew up where the woman also stayed home but had the choice of working for her family of course this caused some conflict but got to an agreement for their children's sake. We as a colored family had special dishes cooked on Sundays including our favorite ''potjie''dish. Our home language is Afrikaans.  Even though we have our own ways of doing things I understand the concept of ''from'' by the way I grew up in a colored  Afrikaans speaking household.  

What I understand from othering is that people treat other people differently if they are not in the same group, this can be a group of class meaning status as well. An element that plays a big role in this is the social media world. Here people post pictures of their daily lives which can look so deceiving sometimes but it is not as glamorous as it looks but only a facade to keep people on their profile envying what is not true. 

This causes us to feel a certain way about how we see ourselves. We think if we are as tall as models we would be good enough to be the next Kendal Jenner. We believe that if we had long hair, a perfect body, and designer clothes we would fit in with the group we envy so much

Through this people see us differently in the sense of not fitting in with them if we do not have what they have. Do we need to fit in is the question? It takes us back to the fact that we do not have to pretend in order to be liked. How others see us should not be our problem, live up to your standard and be the best you. Do not be misled by what others think they have and you do not. 

We never realize how much people's behavior affects us as an individual. The relationships we form with people often reflect what we want and need from one another. Like most people like to say it all begins at home. The relationship you have with your parents and siblings will be shown in the way you treat others around you. What causes a problem in this is the fact that not everyone has a present mother and father some only have one of the above or none, and this often leaves a hole in most of them creating a barrier between them and those around them. 

I have a great relationship with my mother and siblings. I know I can always go to them when I struggle with something or need some advice. My mother and I often argue about silly things but she never hesitates to support me in everything  I do. I have a strong support system at home which gives me the courage to do everything at my full potential. However, my father is separated from us which left me longing for a father figure. 

Thinking you will be fine and actually saying that is so different than what you have to face. Longing for that bond and challenges being overcome as father and daughter is so much more than what we think it can be. The car tire changing exercise, the boy problems, your first heartbreak, and your first job interview. You would not think it is so big of a deal but how you treat men and how you want them to treat you says otherwise. 

I treat everyone with the respect they deserve. I build genuine relationships with people because that is what I would want in return. Trusting them and learning to trust them is always been a challenge for me. However, this has built me to be strong and independent knowing I get what I need from my family and my close friends and trusting myself to be open to new relationships.