SOCIAL NETWORKING of kinship 

In this reflective blog post, i look into the coplex web of my social networks, exploring my diverse relationships that shape my daily interactions and influence my worldview. From My closest family ties and distant relatives to the active exchanges within professional circles and the comforting friendships, i have had a different experience of the world throughout each network i have made. Social Networking to me is the interaction you have with people on a daily basis, from your family to your friends, and a person you happens to stop you to talk.

As someone living with ADD its fairly hard to network with people. Even with my own family at times its really hard to communicate with them as i am not social enough. I usually keep to myself and people think imm and angry person. My Social Network is fairly small. The first being my parents, i am the first born so they basically learned parenting through me, they brought me up speaking English my whole life, never spoke to me directly in my mother tongue. At that time they didn't know i lived with ADD. So i would assume they thought id learn my language down the line. As the first born they have taught me to love and treat other people in a respectful manner, ive been giving the responsibility to look after my household when they are gone. They have shown me what hard work looks like even though I haven't followed in their footsteps as of yet. I have been shown love by these to people to the point where anything that doesn't resemble at least 50% of it id rather not have those people in my life. I have learned to let go of the things that brings no purpose in my life

My friend group is fairly small and is divide by close friends and friends. I don't necessarily enjoying talking to people thats why my friend group is small. But the people ive meet since my university journey have opened me up to a point where im comfortable with them. In this last year i have learned what true friendship really is. They have opened ne up to society. I don't ever talk about my life with people but with them im able to let some stuff out, we are able to talk about our problems together with understanding and no judgements. We are all at the same level with everything, when we work we work when we have fun we have fun. The other friends i just hang around with when they are around, i normally just attend events with them or go do similar school work with i dont talk to them often but when I do we have good times

With other people i usually avoid interactions with them as im not interested in making networks with people. I keep everything brief. In doing so i have found complete peace as i have no drama happening. On campus i dont talk to anyone unless I know them. 

No matter how unsocial you are social interactions are an important life experience, you cannot avoid it and have to let it happen. These are the things that shape you 

the term othering means to treat someone as if they are not apart of the group and are very different. as someone who lives with adhd/add i have to some extent have experience othering. i have seen the assumptions of how people talk about it bring otherness, but thankfully the environment i lived in helped me get a diagnosis of my condition. 

The TedTalks by Bart Williams and Adichie best draw attention to the dangers of a single story and the important factors in diversifying narratives. As someone who lives with Adhd/add the environment you grow up in is important. I lived in a well of family, and not many people in my family know about my condition. It was picked up early on in my child hood. but for someone with the same issue living in poverty wouldn't have had the same experience, they would have been treated as a crazy person from the moment they become aware of their surroundings. they would grow up thinking they are a failure because they aren't able to basic things as fast as others, they would grow up thinking they are bewitched. these portrayals show how narrow minded people can be and it brings misunderstanding and can perpetuate harmful stereotypes like what Adichie said. Bart- Williams state why it is important to change channels and be active in looking at engaging with different perspectives to try overlook the negative impact of media.

in conclusion it is very important to question stereotypes, listen to different perspectives and combat stigmatization. Empathy and education are important when trying to be a more inclusive society where everyone feels valued and understood despite their neurodiversity