A girl is no allowed to stand in the middle of the door since consequences were getting your periods several times a month. Girls shouldn't eat eggs or drink milk while on their periods because they will have heavy flows. Girls while on their periods shouldn't use the baths tub when they're on their periods but should use bathing dishes to avoid heavy flows. A girl should be given a glass or a cup to hold when they get their first period or they will be clumsy. Girls should not seat on the floor as this will make the have sever period pains. Girls should not borrow one another clothes like pants, skirts and tights as they might have sever period pains. Girls are not allowed to eat meat of the head of animals as it is believed to be food for only males. Girls should not allow anyone to sweep their feet because if they do you will not get married. The first growth of breast in young  girls is supposed to be swept with a broom as it is believe to not be the right growth and after 2 weeks they disappear and the second growth begins. A girl should not eat from the pot because there will be heavy rain on their wedding day. A girl should make her bed before sunrise or she will not be married. When a child listens to their parents they will be rich. A girl is not supposed to eat eggs too much or they will have many kids. When you eat dog food your hair will grow fast and be long. Floating seeds finish maize meal if they get inside the house. Dirty dishes chase visitor away so you have to wash them every time. Should any make an infant stand on the floor the baby will have smelling under armpits. Only adults should seat on couches and should a child seat they will grow horns. children should not walk bare foot or their feet will be long.  

As a student, my networks influence my academic career, personal progress, and general well-being. My networks include classmates, lecturers, family members, and friends, all those who play important roles in my life.

My peers provide me with support, collaboration, and encouragement as part of my academic network. We share common goals and problems, and we support one another by working on group projects, studying together, and having conversations. I value my classmates' diverse opinions and experiences, which further develop my understanding of different modules and improve my overall knowledge.My lectures play a crucial role in my academic network. They offer advice, information, and mentorship to help me explore complex issues, make objectives, and improve my skills. I treasure their analysis and insights because they encourage me to think critically, interact thoroughly with the course material, and strive for greatness in my studies.

Outside of school, family and friends are an important part of my social network. They provide emotional support, love, and encouragement, which develops a sense of belonging and security in my life. I strengthen my relationships with them by engaging in meaningful conversations, sharing experiences, and spending quality time together.My networks contribute to a variety of exchanges that contribute to my personal and academic development. For example, in my academic network, I exchange knowledge, ideas, and feedback with my peers and teachers, which improves my grasp of various fields and improves my skills. I also seek support, encouragement, and inspiration from my friends and family, which improves my emotional well-being and sense of self.

In addition to the social network, neighbors and social media play a certain role in my life. Whenever I'm home I greet my neighbors that is the interaction I usually have with them. We do here and there have small talks like talking about the weather and some older people would just advice on certain aspects of life. I sometimes get invited to parties or any other ceremonies. Then there is social media. I use WhatsApp, Facebook, Instagram and Tiktok. These social platforms come in handy mostly in terms off communication between family, friends or anyone in my surroundings where we share a lot off things like bad and good news. And intertainment which is mostly watching funny videos. Not only do I use them for communicating and entertainment but to also learn from other people who I don't know. These teachings social media provides are usually the one's that help us grow personally and mostly shape how we see the world.

Through these interactions, I not only gain great insights and assistance from others, but I also provide my own thoughts, abilities, and support to the improvement of others around me. By actively participating in my networks, connecting truthfully with people, and building reciprocal connections based on trust and respect, I create a supportive environment that supports both my personal and academic growth.Overall, my networks are important pillars in my life, providing me with the resources, connections, and support I need to succeed as a student and as a person. They mold my experiences, impact my perspectives, and give me a sense of belonging and fulfillment. Through my interactions with people in my networks, I not only learn and grow, but also cultivate important relationships that improve my life tremendously.

Rite of separation 

I was woken up by a struck of light rays from the sun that caused me to open my eyes and they hurt a little. Hearing people talking, the stomping of people's footsteps on the hall way some even drag their feet, laughter everywhere I could literally hear my sister's contagious horrible laugh and I just smiled and chuckled. All that made me realize I have to wake up. There was going to be a braai but I was going to vaal farmers market. Gently I got off bed, played Beyonce's songs on my phone a did my bed. There after I prepared for a bath and while water was still pouring into the tub I added my bath salt and my good smelling vanilla foam. The vanilla scent filled the room and hit my nostrils. Getting in the bathtub felt like magic the water just soothed my melanin skin. After my well deserved bath I wore a flora dress with sandals and off I went to the kitchen.

Liminal phase

Got to the kitchen the kitchen greeted and went straight to my mom who served me porridge 'mabele' to be specific. I poured milk which ran around in the vowl and mixed well. There after I added butter that enhanced the taste and smell of the porridge, sprinkled brown sugar for the right sweetness. Had breakfast conversing here and then went to my room with my two sisters to helps me prepare. I wore my cargo dress with slip on my sisters then did my hair and makeup. Makeup on point with braids tied into a messy bun, I finished my look with a clutch bag and my journey scents mixed with dazzling diva perfumes. I look and smelled scrumptious and I left. When I got there I met my friends the vibe was nice, the food was so good from staters and drinking were just flooding in. I didn't know I could dance until that day. We learned that when you're in such wvents and you're happy you turn your torches from your phones on.

Rites of incorporation 

Around 6pm my friends and I went to our respective homes separately. When I got home the braai was still on so I just greeted and wished eve

everyone a goodnight, took a quick shower,got into bed and slept I was dog tired.

Growing up my dad was strict and always wanted things to be done his way by always imposing his interests in us his children. He would expect girls to do house chores and always wear skirts to prepare us for marriage. At first I thought it was the right thing to do because it was taught. But as I grew up I realized that I do not have to do all these things just because apparently I am a girl. Well reading novels completely changed the way I think because I learnt that gender roles do not really define who we are but how we conduct and present ourselves defines who we are. Marriage is just a choice and most certainly does not have to be overrated.

People's perspective of life differs from person to person which is why people should do what they are comfortable in doing without pressure from other people.